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BobBergJoanne, I respectfully disagree with everything in your editorial.  You rue the fact that contested elections have come to Scarsdale Village and the Scarsdale School Board in recent years.  I, on the other hand, rejoice.  This is America, where our democracy is rooted in open, contested elections, free speech, and the public exchange of ideas.

I know that doesn’t go down easily with the Scarsdale Establishment that loves to control all of Scarsdale’s elected offices. But our increasingly diverse residents speak not with one voice.  We don’t need a Central Committee reminiscent of the Politburo in the former Soviet Union choosing our elected representatives either for School Board or Village Trustee or Mayor.  We are intelligent, independent thinkers.  Moreover, (1) none of the new crop of SBNC members this year ran in a contested election; and (2) hardly anyone voted for them - just 137 voters total out of 12,400 or so registered Scarsdale voters. This disturbing fact captures the fundamental weakness of the non-representative, “non-partisan” system – a system that does not necessarily reflect the needs and wants of the greater community.  I know from unfortunate personal experience that’s the case with respect to the Citizens Nominating Committee which picks its partisan political party’s nominees for Village office.

You claim that Scarsdale’s supposed “unique non-partisan system” was “formerly the envy of many communities.”  Do you have any data to support this assertion?  I believe that’s only true in the minds of the system’s supporters.

One of the biggest fallacies of the ironically-named “non-partisan system” is that its generally self-selected members have no agenda.  Just look at the school board election two years ago.  That was the election where the SBNC decided not to re-nominate incumbent Board member Pam Fuehrer for re-election at the end of her first three-year term.  Having been rejected by the SBNC – a highly unusual, if not unique occurrence, Pam ran independently, and she won her seat easily.

How did this sui generis scenario arise?  Well, remember the bruising controversy over the Greenacres Elementary School?  After years of discussion and analysis, in 2017, the Administration and the School Board finally decided to renovate and expand the Greenacres School over the vehement opposition of a small group of residents who demanded that the District instead build a brand new school at double the cost of the renovation/expansion.  Joanne, you were a leading proponent of the “build a brand new school” faction, and your website featured many articles and editorials favoring that position.  But in February 2018, the voters overwhelmingly agreed with the Administration and the School Board.  By a 2:1 margin, voters approved the bond for the renovation/expansion, and that project is well underway. 

Some of the dissidents were members of the SBNC, which in March 2018 denied Pam Fuehrer the SBNC's re-nomination of her to the Board, and instead selected another candidate.  Pam decided to run as an independent candidate, just as Mayra is now doing.  Pam won re-election easily, with even ardent long-term supporters of the "non-partisan" system publicly endorsing Pam's independent run.  As we all know, Pam continues to do a splendid job as a Board member and now, as President, during exceptionally difficult circumstances. The District and our residents are being well-served under Pam’s experienced, even-handed, and thoughtful leadership.

Joanne, you seemed puzzled that any candidate would choose to run outside the SBNC banner?  You wonder whether something is wrong with the District or the School Board or the candidates selected by the SBNC, and you have come up blank.  So you pose the rhetorical question of why anyone else would jump in to upset the SBNC cart, causing what you suggest is a highly active, divisive, “tiresome” political campaign?  Where is your proof that that Mayra is running a “divisive” campaign?  In fact, many residents are publishing letters supporting her candidacy and thanking her for running.  No one is “attacking” the SBNC candidates.  Mayra is just reaching out to the public, presenting her qualifications, and asking for the public’s support.  (Unfortunately, I can’t say the same about certain members of the Campaign Committee for the SBNC candidates who are, in fact, misbehaving.)

You say the volunteers supporting the SBNC candidates are now being forced to spend time defending their candidates and raising money to campaign “simply to defend Scarsdale’s unique brand of governance” when they otherwise could be helping imperiled residents. I guess that’s the price of democracy, free speech, and open elections.  I hope we still have this on a national level in November of this year too. 

The SBNC candidates have delegated leadership of their campaign to the Coalition for Scarsdale Schools, a political organization headed by former School Board member Art Rublin.  Their 28-member campaign committee is running a well-funded, coordinated effort to promote its candidates and to “save” the SBNC system.  Mayra, on the other hand, is running her campaign by herself, while trying to ensure that her two elementary school-age kids stay on top of their schoolwork and her consulting business stays afloat.

Many, if not most Scarsdale residents, especially newcomers, are mystified by the “unique” “non-partisan system” that supposedly underlies Scarsdale’s electoral system for both Village and School District government.  What Scarsdale voters need to understand is that the so-called Scarsdale “non-partisan system” is not an official governmental electoral system at all. Instead, it is a partisan political party system invented by its adherents which simply calls itself “non-partisan.”  By dint of its accumulated power over many decades, most residents have been intimidated from running against the “machine” in a contested election, even though that’s the norm everywhere in the United States and under New York State’s election laws.

In Scarsdale, the system began in 1911 in connection with the Village election as a result of a convenient power-sharing deal between the Republicans and the Democrats that resolved a nasty spat from the previous election.   The “new deal” allowed the wealthy, white Protestant men of Scarsdale – the power elite – to determine for everyone who the elected officials of the Village would be for decades into the future.  Remember, at the time, women didn’t even have the legal right to vote!

Paradoxically, today’s strongest supporters of this inherently undemocratic and flawed system are precisely the type of people its “founders” intended to keep out of Scarsdale’s public offices (and were successful in doing so for decades). Although times, the law, and the rules of both the SBNC and CNC have changed over the decades to become more open and welcoming, the Village Board still has never had a person of color as a Trustee or Mayor and the School Board has had only one.  Neither Board reflects the wonderful diversity of Scarsdale’s residents.

With respect to School Board elections, New York State law nowhere contemplates “selection committees” like the SBNC for candidates for School Board.  School Board elections are governed by New York Education Law Section 2018, which provides that persons seeking to run for School Board simply need to file a petition signed by a small number of qualified voters of the District. Once they obtain the requisite number of signatures, they get on the ballot. This year, because of the COVID-19 pandemic, Governor Cuomo issued an Executive Order dispensing with the requirement to obtain signatures, and all any candidate had to do is file a nominating petition he/she signed, attesting that he/she qualified to run and intends to run.  New York law encourages all qualified and interested residents to run for School Board, and it’s up to the voters in the District to decide who they want to be their representatives by voting.

The SBNC-chosen candidates are not the only ones in town who could do a great job on the School Board. Our community is incredibly fortunate that during this terrible pandemic – which has caused a recession far worse than the financial crisis in 2008-2009 – Mayra Kirkendall-Rodríguez has decided to step up and run for School Board.  I’ve lived in Scarsdale for 18 years, and she is among the very best candidates for School Board I’ve seen during my tenure here.

Her life story is inspiring. She is one of 15 siblings, the daughter of a migrant farmworker from South Texas.  Mayra, with parental support, her own drive, and the transformative power of public school education, graduated near the top of her high school class.  Mayra went on to Harvard University, where she received her BA degree, and then on to the University of Pennsylvania, obtaining an M.B.A. degree from The Wharton School and a M.A. degree from the Lauder Institute.  Mayra speaks 6 languages and has worked in or visited 73 countries. Besides her linguistic skills, Mayra is an expert in financial risk management and modeling.

I have worked extensively with Mayra for four years on a variety of civic projects, especially at the Scarsdale Forum where I am a former President.  Mayra is incredibly bright, passionate, analytical, and thoughtful. She is able to work well with people who have disparate views.  Mayra is a true leader.  Her financial acumen, analytical abilities, risk management expertise, and her global background will make her a superb addition to the School Board, especially during these trying times.  While I do not know the other two candidates, I thank them for being willing to run for public office.  This is why I’m a fan of “contested” elections.  Our voters deserve a choice.  We are smart enough to make up our own minds as to which candidates we want to select to represent us on the School Board.

jillspielbergJill Spielberg will serve as Vice President of the Scardale ForumThe Scarsdale Forum announced that members voted to elect Jill Spielberg as its Vice President at its Annual Membership Meeting. Spielberg will serve alongside Madelaine Eppenstein, Scarsdale Forum’s new President. Forum members also elected Matthew Martin as Treasurer, Alexandra Tagami Vargo as Secretary, and Sarah Bell, Marcy Berman-Goldstein, and Christian Callaghan as Directors-at-Large.

According to Spielberg: “I am honored to take on this leadership role for an organization that is so important to the vitality and success of our village. I am excited to work with Madelaine Eppenstein as President, who is inspirational in her dedication to the Forum and to our community. We hope that this will be the beginning of a period of rapid growth for the Forum, furthering our efforts to engage a larger cross-section of Scarsdale in the important discussions and studies of the preferences and challenges of our town.”

According to Eppenstein: “It is a profound honor for me to be entrusted with the stewardship of this historically significant organization in the civic life of the Village. I am especially privileged to do so side-by-side with VP Jill Spielberg, who brings the energy, acumen and passion that will contribute so much to the achievements of the Forum. I look forward with equal enthusiasm to working with Jill, Matt, Alex, our new and returning Directors and Directors-at-Large, and all our members during the coming year."

Jill Spielberg was born and raised in Scarsdale, and returned back in 2010 with her husband to raise her two children. She has served on the Forum Board of Directors, as Co-Chair of the Membership Committee, and as Co-Chair of the Scarsdale Electoral Policy Committee. Outside of the Forum, she has served on the Procedure Committee and as a member of the Citizens Nominating Committee. When not actively participating in civic life in Scarsdale, Jill is a lawyer with her own Matrimonial and Family Law practice in Westchester and New York City.

Madelaine Eppenstein and her husband are 27-year residents of the Fox Meadow neighborhood of Scarsdale and have two adult children. She currently serves on the Forum Board of Directors and Executive Committee and is chair of the Municipal Services Committee. She also serves on the board of the Friends of the Scarsdale Parks, Inc., an environmental nonprofit dedicated to the conservation of village parks and greenspaces. She served as the 2018-2019 Chair of the Procedure Committee that administers the nonpartisan election system in Scarsdale. For 37 years, she was managing partner of a New York City civil litigation and arbitration law firm with her husband. During that period she appeared before several Congressional committees on subjects relating to the federal securities laws, and participated in appeals for clients in federal and state courts, including the U.S. Supreme Court. She also completed a year of service as Vice President for the Scarsdale Forum.

Added Eppenstein, “I am delighted to collaborate with so many dedicated Forum members who are committed to its mission of providing ‘a platform for meaningful community dialogue about municipal, school and related civic affairs.’ More than ever in these challenging times, I encourage residents to join the Forum, and take part in the activities that afford members a variety of opportunities to be informed, to express personal views and to become involved in addressing the issues, choices and solutions that directly impact our community.”

MayraBW(This press release was sent to Scarsdale10583 by Mayra Kirkendall-Rodriguez)
Mayra Kirkendall-Rodríguez is pleased to announce her candidacy for the Scarsdale Board of Education. Together with her husband, Brice, and two elementary school children, she has lived in Fox Meadow for nine years.

Kirkendall-Rodríguez has been the leading Co-Chair of the Fox Meadow Multicultural Committee for five years where she has helped expand the committee’s activities significantly by adding numerous countries to the annual Multicultural Country Fair and to the annual Appreciation Lunch for Teachers. She has also created and led writing workshops for 3rd-5th graders at the annual Young Writers’ Workshop held at the Scarsdale Middle School.

Kirkendall-Rodríguez was the Chair and Co-Chair of the Scarsdale Forum’s Education Committee for three years. She researched, wrote, and reported upon the Scarsdale school budget, the need for a long-term financial plan for the Scarsdale School District, World Languages in Scarsdale schools, Greenacres School renovation, and metrics to determine what is a global education for Scarsdale students. At the Forum, she was also an active member of the Assessment Revaluation, Communications, Municipal Services, Fiscal Affairs Scarsdale, and Downtown Revitalization Committees, assisting in being the lead writer or contributor to numerous reports on matters relevant to Scarsdale residents. In particular, she was instrumental in designing, distributing and analyzing consumer and merchant surveys to aid in Downtown Revitalization and pedestrian, cycling, and driving surveys to make recommendations to improve safety in Scarsdale. She was on the Executive Committee one year as well as on the Board of Directors for two years.

Kirkendall-Rodríguez is the Secretary and Communications Officer for the Old Scarsdale Neighborhood Association where she regularly creates a newsletter for residents to keep them abreast of important school and Village matters. She also assists her husband Brice, Scarsdale Cub Scout Master, in all communication matters related to the Scarsdale Cub Scout Pack 440; recently, she became a den leader for the first all girls’ den.

Mayra is presently a bank and capital markets risk consultant and trainer and has worked in over 30 countries. She has been an Adjunct Professor at New York University and the Fashion Institute of Technology. She has published over 300 articles about a wide range of economics, finance, risk identification, and data analysis topics. Previous to running her own firm, MRV Associates, she held capital markets analyst and energy investment banking roles at the Federal Reserve Bank of New York and in London for JPMorgan and BT.AlexBrown. While at the Federal Reserve, Mayra had the honor of interpreting from Russian to English for Former Federal Reserve Paul Volcker and Secretary of State Henry Kissinger during President Boris Yeltsin’s first visit to the United States. She also delivered classes in Spanish to visiting central bankers from Latin America.

She holds an A.B. in Russian and Soviet Studies from Harvard and Radcliffe Colleges. She also holds an MA in Russian and Eurasian Studies from The Lauder Institute and an MBA in Finance and Emerging Markets from The Wharton School of the University of Pennsylvania. She was a Raoul Wallenberg Scholar at the Hebrew University in Jerusalem where took courses in Middle East conflict resolution and Hebrew. While at Hebrew University, she led the first-ever student run human rights conference in Moscow and interpreted from Russian to English for Yelena Bonner. During her undergraduate and graduate studies, she completed several study-abroad programs in Berlin, Jerusalem, Leningrad (now St. Petersburg), and Moscow. Mayra is fluent in English, Spanish, and Russian and is conversational in German, Hebrew, and Italian.

She is an active volunteer in her undergraduate and graduate school alumni associations. Annually, she interviews students from Westchester County, who are applying to Harvard College. Mayra also volunteers with the Yonkers Middle School through the Harvard and Radcliffe Westchester Club. More information about Kirkendall-Rodríguez’ professional, academic, and volunteer background may be found at

Mayra is one of 15 children and attended public schools in McAllen, Texas. Her father landed with the Normandy forces at Omaha Beach and served with the Occupation Forces until he was honorably discharged; her mother is a homemaker.

Pursuant to Executive Order 202.26, New York State Governor Andrew Cuomo established June 9, 2020, as the date for the 2020 School Board Election and Budget Vote. Voting will be by absentee ballot only, there will be no in-person voting. Absentee ballots will be sent to all qualified voters in the Scarsdale School District with a postage-paid return envelope. Completed ballots must be received in the Scarsdale Schools Office of the District Clerk by 5:00 p.m. on Tuesday, June 9, 2020. (Not postmarked by June 9th)

Mayra For Scarsdale School Board

COVID StatusHow do Scarsdale COVID cases compare with local averages? We conducted an anonymous survey of residents, and though we did not receive a big response, here is what we learned.

Out of 145 respondents, about 14% reported being diagnosed with the virus, which is lower than the Westchester County statistics which shows about 19% are those tested were positive.

However, many respondents were not able to get tested. When asked, “If you wanted a diagnostic test, were you able to get one?” 54% said YES and 45% said NO. So even though many would have liked to know if the symptoms they were experiencing were indicative of the virus, almost half were unable to receive a test.

What were the most common symptoms experienced by responders? Here is the list:

Cough.                     24.3%
Fatigue                    23.26%
Headache               21.71%
Fever                      16.28%
Chest Tightness     16.28%
Sore Throat            15.5%
Muscle Aches         15.5%
Loss of Smell
or Taste                  7.75%

Nausea                  7.75%
Shortness of
Breath                    6.98%
Foot Sores             2.3%

Most interesting were the comments we received from our readers.

Here are a few:

-We only had one positive test because the doctor's office would only test one of us. The rest were "presumed positive.

-Once my husband got it (he's a doctor), we all got sick despite trying to isolate the sick one/s. 5 days apart, the children got high fever but it was a much quicker recovery and didn't get any respiratory symptoms. So contagious!

-Feeling anxious in general.

-It was awful!

About social distancing, here are some thoughts from readers:

"Closing the track was foolish, counterproductive and cruel since it deprived people of needed exercise and forced us onto the more dangerous streets with cars, bicycles, strollers and less social distancing. Very foolish indeed."

"Have seen a lot of street parties and "block parties" in Fox Meadow during the evening hours. Disobeying social distancing in groups of 8-10 women."

"There is far too much activity and traffic in Scarsdale, especially in the Village Center. Police are not present enough in this key area. (Are we not being told about any staffing issues, such as sickness or understaffing?) Lack of enforcing necessary rules and regulations, including on non-essential activities is visible for all to see or to read about in the media. Construction in Scarsdale is a particular problem; and lots of speeding traffic, including trucks and heavy vehicles. Racing cars (drag/sports cars) and motorcycles on major Village roads (Scarsdale Ave., Popham, etc.) and on BRP is a real problem for many months, especially at night. This is a real danger and fatal crashes from racing have reported in the Metro area -- pedestrians and bicycle riders being struck too. Having late or all-night businesses is contributing to all the excessive circulation and associated risk of spreading the virus. These are not essential and just increase risks unnecessarily. Bars are closed, so buying beer at all hours is up. And Scarsdale is one of the few places making this available and attracting people from all over. (Also, night-time coffee, junk food and gas, meanwhile closures are generally by 8pm in other towns.) Many people in the community are at higher risks of serious illness or death -- this is not getting enough attention! Not just elderly, but people with underlying conditions. Scarsdale has not been doing all it can do to help protect our residents and our neighbors in Westchester. Instead, knowingly or not, we are actively contributing to the next big spread. Our leadership is not doing nearly enough and clearly does not have the background or level of knowledge to take further measures and have better enforcement. (Just a factual statement.) This terrible crisis requires at least 1 - 2 times per week for our Mayor and/or Manager to be available for live dialogue with residents to ask them direct questions and report the issues/problems not being attended to. Then to provide direct answers with timely follow-up. Lots of people are scared and isolated. Spaces to share and communicate with each other, our elected officials and Village administrators are greatly lacking. The surreal conditions are overwhelming in many ways so most are staying inside, socially isolated and this creates a false sense of things being ok, or at least better than they are. The disconnection between all of this and those that make policies and manage things is a growing gap that should be of great concern to all of us. Actions are required and new ways of doing things are demanded by these historic conditions. More people need to be included in this process. Our leaders must reach out and involve the broader community in this. Scarsdale has a lot of talent and resources that is not being tapped into. This is a shame and if the status quo contributes to any loss of life -- well, that say would say a lot about Scarsdale today."

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QRKidsThough I feared schools would remain closed through the end of June, I was still surprised when I heard the Governor’s orders not to re-open. First I am saddened for all the children who are missing a vital part of their education, cut off from friends, sports and all their activities. I thought of the senior class who will miss important year end rituals like their senior prom and graduation. The end of the school year is usually a time for celebrations of all sorts at the district, and these occasions are permanently lost.

Though only about a half of residents have children in the schools, Scarsdale itself is dominated by the academic calendar. We mark time by the first day of school, Columbus Day weekend, Thanksgiving, the Christmas break, February vacation, time off for Passover and Easter and all the fun that usually comes in June. Without this calendar, it feels a bit like the Village has lost its rhythm. What day is it and what are we supposed to be doing? Without a calendar and with no end date to the pandemic in site, many of us have lost our North Star.

We asked a few parents of school age children what they thought about the closing of the schools and what it meant to their children and families – and here is what they shared. Most noted loneliness, feelings of social isolation, missing friends and the loss of a regular routine. Their answered varied greatly based on the age of their children, but these were some common themes.

First we spoke to the mother of a preschooler and a kindergartner and asked what her kids missed. She said, “They don’t seem to be missing anything at all.” In terms of the impact on their education, their mother said, “They are 4 and 6... so I don’t think there will be any noticeable long-term impact. They may become better learners from having to spend all that time on their own.” About the summer she said, “I doubt their summer camps will be in session and we haven’t signed up for any as a result. We would be interested in individual / “safe” (whatever that means) small group enrichment programs should those be available.”

A Greenacres mom with a son in elementary school noted a few bright spots of adapting to e-Learning. She said,  "Some good things have come out of distance learning. My elementary school child has had to be more responsible about managing assignments and using Google Classroom. He should be very ready for middle school in that respect. Normally he is resistant to my helping him with anything academic, but now as I am the only game in town he is less so!"

However, the mother of elementary school children in third and fifth grades reported that kids were feeling the loss of friends, teachers and their routine. She said, “My fifth-grade daughter was so sad and said that even though she know it probably wasn't going to reopen, at least she still had a little bit of hope. It is definitely the right move given the current state of the crisis. I feel so badly for my kids because they miss their friends and their teachers so much. Aside from randomly seeing people when we are on walks or bike rides, we don't really see anyone. My kids have Zoom playdates but nothing in person. We are still waiting to hear about sleep away camp. I hope there is a way that they can go because they are craving social interaction, but things are changing so rapidly that it is anyone's guess if they have camp or not! I think trying to keep a routine for the kids has given us some sense of normalcy during this surreal time. They are doing arts and crafts projects, playing in the backyard, bike riding, baking, playing with Legos, reading and watching movies. The idea of regulating screen time has gone out the window! The same with dessert … it’s a staple after every meal (except breakfast!)

A Quaker Ridge mom with a first and fifth grader and a child in the middle school offered perspectives as the mother of children with varying experiences.

She said, “I feel that the closing of school for this year was inevitable considering the magnitude of the COVID-19 crisis in New York. There is a feeling of loss; one of my children is set to graduate from elementary school this year and he often talks about everything that he and his classmates are missing -- the events and activities to celebrate the end of their time at the school. Luckily his teacher has been amazing, staying connected to the students from the outset of school being closed; but it is sad for me, as a parent, to see how this change is affecting my children.”

Was this necessary? She answered, “I don't think that the majority of parents/teachers/children would have the confidence and comfort to return to school at this juncture. It is sad but necessary until the pandemic is more under control and a plan has been put into place for a reopening of our area and schools. I think that our schools; the administrators and the teachers have been doing an incredible job of moving forward with innovation, flexibility and creativity.”

Asked how this impacts her family, she said, “One of my kids is supposed to have his Bar Mitzvah in June and it will now be a Zoom service, which is a completely different experience of this milestone but he doesn't want to postpone it indefinitely. Another was set to graduate QRS and will not be returning to the school he's known for the past six years; won't really have a chance to say goodbye to his teachers, to the staff. It is an unfinished feeling and there are a lot of complicated emotions experienced and expressed by my children during this time. My youngest is in first grade and her e-Learning is the most complex for us to manage. The kids have a lot of questions about the future. They've asked if they will start school again in September. I think that at this point, they are really kind of in shock that their schools aren't going to open for the rest of the year. The fact that schools aren't opening really demonstrates for the kids, the serious nature of this crisis.”

What do the kids miss? She continued, “They say that they miss the feeling of just being at school with friends. They miss being able to spend time with people; play basketball with friends; go to birthday parties. The oldest misses having fun with his friends at school; feels that being at school, in the building, teaches him about life and there is a loss of so much with our new life experience. As much as the teachers are creative and have been evolving with the e-Learning, all of my children have realized how much more they learn in the classroom. My oldest is in a Jazz Band at school and they normally perform at a festival in the spring and go on a field trip to an amusement park; these are experiences he just won't have this year. Two of his best friends had their Bar Mitzvahs in March via Zoom and he was really upset and anxious that he wasn't able to celebrate with them. The kids really miss that feeling of connection with their teachers, friends and extended family.”

We wondered if some would now leave town since they don’t have to be home to attend school. She said, “Yes, we are going to go to our summer house -- it is in Quogue. We really want to see extended family that live in the city and on Long Island but we haven't done so. I would love to be able to have a cookout with extended family to celebrate my son's Bar Mitzvah this summer, since his regular party plan is indefinitely postponed, but I'm not sure if and how it will be possible.”

We also asked her to comment on what the long-term impact on her children’s education might be and she said, “It is a completely different experience doing schoolwork solely at home as opposed to having the real school experience. I hope that they are able to generally stay on track; they are learning, moving forward. I've noticed that my middle schooler's classes are covering topics that are related to the current state of the world, including learning about viruses in Science. I've noticed that there is a real wellness aspect to my middle schooler's learning; however, there is also the added stress of working on new material with only two 20-25-minute academic sessions per week (he has his four academic subjects on Monday morning and again on Thursday afternoon). It takes him much longer to work through new material via e-Learning and I know that adds to his general stress level. For my fifth grader, his teacher has Zoom lessons with them every day for an hour and a half. Every day, she outlines what she wants them to work on and reminds them of any specials, like Art or Music, they may have in the afternoon. She also holds individual facetime conferences with the kids to check-in about schoolwork. I'm really happy for him that he's had that support and touchstone for these two months.”

In the meantime, how is her family spending their time? She responded, “We go for family walks; the kids play outside drawing with chalk, playing basketball at home; jumping on the trampoline. Luckily the weather has been nice so that they easily go outdoors. They play a lot of video games. We do some baking, have some movie nights. I try to stay positive and calm but days can be an emotional rollercoaster. Both of my boys play guitar, so that is a nice outlet for them. My youngest, my daughter does a lot of artwork, she's been very prolific with play doh sculpture and drawings”

About summer camp she said, “The kids hope to attend camp but we don't know at this point if the camp will be in session. The uncertainty is one of the hardest aspects to deal with for all of us. We just don't know what the immediate future holds. Hopefully, we will all be able to move forward in a positive way. I'm glad that we have each other and I'm really proud of my kids for doing their best amidst the many complicated emotions of this time.”

We spoke to the mother of two girls in high school. She said they were disappointed that school will not re-open “because now there is no end to my children’s isolation in sight. The hope that schools might reopen was keeping them motivated and now it’s gone.”

Did she think this step was necessary? She said, “No, because other countries are figuring out how to reopen schools. I would have preferred opening for 1 day a week, or even one class a week, just to allow the kids to feel some kind of physical engagement with the school.”

She said her girls miss “Leaving the house, seeing friends, doing activities such as getting lunch, shopping, or manicures, sports, taking tests in person vs. alone in a room with a camera on them.” She said they only interact with their friends via text and FaceTime.

Do they have any plans to leave town? She said, “No, we would like to go to England, or on college tours, but we don’t know when planes will be safe.”

How is e-Learning going at her house? She said, “The amount of material being covered by SHS teachers varies greatly. Some are attempting to cover 60% of the material, some less than that. I am most concerned about math, since each year feeds into the next year. It is also very difficult to learn math just from doing worksheets, so even the concepts that are being taught are not being grasped completely. Science is my next concern. Also, sitting in a room alone doing worksheets for hours on end is making both of my children dislike school, and they used to love it.

The family is keeping busy, doing “tie dye, gardening, walks, working out (Peloton, erg, apps, running), cooking, Netflix, communicating with friends through text or FaceTime. We are also looking at colleges online, since we can’t do college tours.”

About the summer she said, “One daughter’s teen tour (to Greece) was just officially cancelled, the other one’s (to Hawaii) will be determined on 5/15. Everything that has been planned has been cancelled, or is in question: job (lifeguard), sports (swimming and crew), vacation (to England or a beach location).

She ended by saying, “It is very daunting to think of a summer with no plans and then the potential of school possibly being online in the fall. The isolation needs to be addressed in some way or we are going to see serious mental health fall-out.”

A mother of two high school age students is still hoping there will be some graduation festivities for her son who is a senior.

Her kids miss “the social interaction with their friends in school. Being able to be in class face to face with DSC03078The SHS Class of 2020 will likely miss their senior prom.teachers as its easier in general to ask questions. She says, “My daughter was very disappointed that the lacrosse season was cancelled as she trained all winter and both my kids play spring club soccer so it is sad that there is no season for my son since it would have been his last club soccer season.

Longer term, she is “hopeful that we can return to some more normalcy come September, but she has great concern that things may look different from a physical being in school standpoint.  She continued, “I don’t know if my son will be able to go to college in the fall. I am especially concerned for lower income and under privileged students who are probably doing much less learning.”

He family is keeping busy by playing games and doing puzzles. She reports, “My daughter and I have done 13, 1000+ piece puzzles, we are addicted. We’re also cooking, cleaning out some clutter in the house and binge watching some shows and movies.

About the summer she says, “My kids were not planning to attend camp but my son wanted to be a Scarsdale rec camp counselor and I really haven’t heard anything regarding that. My daughter’s summer plans are on hold right now as she was supposed to go overseas on a teen tour.”

She concluded, “Overall, we are generally sad as my son is graduating and waiting for news from the SHS administration on possible plans for a social distancing graduation. I am sad that my son cannot experience the traditional end of senior year and prom. I’m hopeful that he can have a summer prom in some form. I’m also hopeful that things will open up slowly starting end of May and he can start seeing friends a little more and be able to celebrate the end of high school."

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