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it's easy to turn anonymous off in settings. Askfm shouldnt be banned- it has many benefits (y)

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Like many teenagers my daughter has unwisely told friends her passwords. She had an ASK.fm account but deleated it a couple of weeks ago. We have had a campaign of hate against her because an account has been set up in her name and apparently linked to her twitter account which then set off to insult and hurt members of her school. As it is in her name her friends believe she has done these things and there is a campaign of hate where 30 plus other pupils surrounded her today, some of whom told her to die, everyone hates her etc We are trying to prove that these messages did not come from our IP address. Does anyone know how we can do this? Please help.

My daughter is on this site and i was SHOCKED to read what these kids are saying to each other. I can't even imagine how ALL this crazy social media stuff is shaping our children's minds. I encourage all parents to access their kids sites (whatever way you do it) you

MY son was a victim of bullying ON THIS PAGE AND IF I'M VERY ASK.FM AGREE THAT THE SITE WILL ban the user is not safe these anonymous COMMUNITY FOR ATTACKING THE BOYS

Why have sites that can comment anonymously!!!! It's like they want people to be bullied, kill themselves! It's sick and needs to be shut down but of course money is more important than lives, I 've seen first hand what this site does, anyone who condones it are as bad as the people doing it

It's not such sites that are sickening, it is the people themselves that spread hate and bullying each other. People should start with themselves first, not with simple innocent websites that mean no harm. If you don't want to be harassed, simply deactivate your Ask.FM account, Formspring, or even Tumblr. Such sites should not even bother to consider being shut down because of a bunch of petty bullies with no self esteem. Get real please. If you don't want to be faced with reality or bullying, don't get an account or block the anon option. SIMPLE.

I have an ask.fm account and honestly, the risk of being bullied on it is the same as for any other social network. If it should be deleted, so should twitter, facebook, youtube, etc. They are all good when used in the right ways, but are easily used for cyber bullying and harassment. People can post anonymously here; they also can make new accounts to harass you on other websites so you don't know who it is. So I don't know what the big deal about it being anonymous is. Also, I find it strange that most people commenting have no problem with facebook but freak out about this. Finally, there is the option to disable anonymous asking on your profile. I don't know why people are getting all upset.

I just found out about this website today when my daughter came to me and said that she was on this website and was told that she was pregnant, a bitch, and that she needed to have a gold club to a gym. Needless to say she is no longer a member. This website should be banned. A lot of kids commit suicide for comments that these anonymous people are posting. We as parents need to take a stand and prevent bullying so that we can protect our children. I am furious with this website and I think it should be closed down.
Very concerned mother.

I really wish it didn't have the option to be anonymous. I set up an account, I am 15, and i knewall my frinds hd it and got it to see what happened. A week after having it people were sendin me anonymous things saying how no one liked me etc. Just recently, someone sent me "Y dont u just kill urself already?" which upset me loads and they continued to say "the world would be so much bettr without peeple like u. Do us all the favur?" etc. I got rid of it. I think there should at least be an age limit

My daughter is 14 and addicted to ask.fm. I hacked into her phone n I was shocked to read the vile explicit sexual comments used on the site. My daughter has changed she is aggressive suicidal n rebellious. I fear what n where thus will end. This site needs to be banned. I don't want my daughter to die.

this site makes me sick ,im so glad to find other people who want it shut down ,my daughter was bullied for over a year ,she was very depressed ,eventually we moved to another area and life became better ,she was singing again and generally very happy ,that was until yesterday i found out that my daughter was being abused buy the deranged sad individual on ask ,i was absolutley devastated to read the vile content and sat in tears reading it ,i contacted the police who visited the girl but it has not put her off ,all i can do is keep reporting it to ceop im not sure if it will do any good to keep reporting it but its worth a shot ,also does anyone know if its possible to sue /take legal action with the site as im very willing to go aheda and do something like that ,im sick of people getting bullied from this site ,its time we stood up to them

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I got bullied over my ask.fm so I deactivated my account but I'm still being talked about on plenty of other people's ask.fm who go to my school.. for instance someone wrote anonymously "Views on Alyssa" on this guys wall and he wrote a huge paragraph calling me a "transevite bitch", "hoe", "dirty begging ugly slut".. I get this a lot. I'm always crying and depressed Sometimes I just don't want to live

My child has had nothing to do with ask.fm today we got phone call saying she is getting bullied on ask.fm all her so called friends are telling her what is getting said she is the talk of school she is shy and embarrased. So YOU dont even need to be on this site to be bullied. They are making fake profiles for kids and posting nasty vindictive stuff , i say close it Down before some other poor child hurts themselves.

I have just found out about these sites after my precious Daughter decided that life wasn't worth living. Thankfully I have discovered her unhappiness and we are getting help from mental health professionals. I have discovered comments that put her down and call her horrible names. She goes to a private school, full of educated, grounded 'young ladies'!! It doesnt matter what circles children socailise in...there are hurtful, vintictive, stupid young men and women that don't seem to grasp that they could be potentially killing someone and desroying a families life. this site should be banned and the government need to take more responsibility and DO SOMETHING. I hate the way society has become in regard to our teenagers. I will now do whatever it takes to help my Daughter regain her confidence and want to live. The people that post these comments disgust me.

People get bullied on Facebook, Twitter, if you call for Ask to be shut down you have to ask for Facebook and Twitter to be shut down. All the concerned parents should be keeping an eye on their kids more and knowing what they're using online. Obviously the bullying etc is awful but you can stop your kids from being exposed to it by not letting them use the site.

long story but sharing knowledge is good if it protects kids...below is a post i placed on Jessicas RIP page.

"I'm a Dad. I saw some abuse on my Daughters. Researched it and was horrified to see ask.fm allowed anonymous posts and the role they had in two suicides in Ireland and now Jessica too. I felt compelled to do something in November and I raised awareness with the school because even though it happens out of school the impact happens in school where the emotional well being of the pupil is most disrupted due to the fact the bullies are probably in the playground too. We pulled a campaign together and I managed to get the TV cameras to cover it too.

These suicides are supported by ASK.FM who blame "cruel children". Just google "ciara pugsley" and "Erin Gallagher". The site is integrated in to Facebook so if someone does post horrid cowardly comments all their friends get to see it on FB too! Ive written to Mark Zuckerberg and ask.fm but as usual - no response. They seem to think its ok to supply tools that make children kill each other.

Within a week we managed to change the attitude of an entire school of 1,000 children from them thinking is was funny and okay to "actually some of my friends are not as thick skinned as me and it needs to stop" During my investigation I saw comments like "Im going to get you raped 6 times then stabbed in the head" and "even your friends think you are a c**t and you're going to die". A constant barrage of this abuse is what drives some people that cant handle it to suicide. People ask the question "Why dont you just get off/delete it". Well - there are two simple reasons. 1) the person being abused feels a need or a right to reply to not appear weak. sadly replies "fuel" the bully as they are getting a reaction from the person beoing abused and often their friends. 2) The person being abused wants, in fact NEEDS, to know what is being said about them otherwise they worry that people would be laughing at them as they may know something they dont. Sadly these reasons keep people engaged with the very thing thats hurting them. TV footage is here:

Lunchtime slot: http://www.facebook.com/video/..._processed

Evening slot footage. Great awareness in a 4 min 20 sec slot. We have also sent a letter and petition to ask.fm and mark zuckerberg from Facebook is getting one too as they allow ask.fm inside Facebook. http://m.youtube.com/#/watch?v...WNOI&gl=GB

If youre a parent or school and would like to know more please feel free to inbox me. The more we share the more we can educate and raise awareness. Facebook is in most kids pockets now and do YOU know whats being said to YOUR child? Ask.fm seem totally uninterested that kids are killing themselves, as do facebook with their tools but feel free to hound ask.fm. here is their CEOs address:

Mark Terebin
Ask.FM
Indranu 8-15,
Riga,
LV-1012,
Latvia.

Im not suggesting the site should close down but the ability to POST ANONYMOUSLY allows evil people to be evil from the comfort of their sofa. its this bit that needs removing."

PS> Search for Mark Zuckerberg too and inbox him from facebook. Let him know hes allowing a company to operate within his framework but that company is actually tarnishing his brand and reputation by supporting what is, in my opinion, murder.

It is amazing to me that everyone does not send a message thru their facebook to block this site from their kids. This article was in JUNE, and I only read of this because of Jessica Laney who committed suicide on DEC 10!!! Teenagers go through so much growing up that this is that last thing they need to continue to be bullyied. You do have to have a valid email address to sign up, so for your problems of stealing an identity, take it to the police. For you parents worried about your kids follow there instructions to block and remove from facebook. Watch what your kids are doing. You can't prevent everything, but this is one thing that you can prevent. Bring it to the attention of your representatives and lawmakers, take part in helping to stop this bullying and this website!

In my opinion ask.fm should not be shut down/banned because there are advise pages on there to help you if you are getting bullied..plus you could turn the anonymous off if you go into settings..I understand the problems on ask.fm as I used to get abuse on there..but scince Ive turned the anonymous off,ive had no more abuse.Thank you.x

Someone has set up an account using my son's name and is posting vile messages to someone, then copying the page and posting the picture on Twitter. It now looks as though he has been the instigator of these messages when he is not. He did use Ask.fm until recently but closed down his account.

It would seem that anyone can open an account and pretend to be whoever they like, posting messages in the name of the innocent person named.

This has been reported to the police, CEOPS and Ask.fm themselves. However, Ask have still not replied to my message about this. Funny that!!!

I would suggest to all Parents to block this site on their Internet routers and spread the word about how to block these sites. Research how to Monitor sites visited and block them. This is how we get our kids off these sites.

Having a visit from CID advising my daughter is a victim of a sexual offence led me to access/hack her media accounts. Ask.fm was prominent and the vileness of the content turned my stomach. She is now missing...

BAN ASK.FM its causing so many problems between everyone

i think the site shouldnt be banned but should have controlls on so if your child is being bullied its easy to block the user.

I understand that its a bullying website, but it allows children to say things to they're crush, or more popular kids, that they would never say in person, its helped me a lot, dont shut it down!

I'm a teenager and I heard about the site from twitter. Before joining I decided to just see what I'm getting into by researching. Found this page & I'm shocked.

I will definately NOT make an account. Why throw myself into a trap? I have enough in life and cyber bullying is something I will never be able to handle.

Thank you for shedding light on this topic. I'd rather be safe than just follow some silly trend.

I am really concerned about my neice who already suffers with depression, she has no close friends and turned to this site as a way to make friends and chat to people, but the abuse she has received on there is sick and dusgusting..She has been told to kill herself several times and her name has been sent to others by these bullies asking them to bully her and make her kill herself!! She has also been sent requests to bully others which she has not and told them they are sick!!! How can this be allowed to continue..I have complained to the website but they have done nothing about it!! This site sould be banned and children, teenagers protected from these sick twisted people!! Please SHUT THIS WEBSITE DOWN!!!!!

Most people who commit suicide don't care about living or dying. That just want to end the pain. Cyber bullying is a huge cause of suicidal people and this ask.fm is full of bullies. The worst part is no one will ever know would write all those mean things.

For all the parents who want this site shut down are right. My friend tried to kill herself because of all the hate she got. They told her to die, because of that she is in the hospital. Did you know every 40 seconds someone commits suicide. This site lets kids say anything they want and they don't care about how the victim feels. I'm a teen so I know that goes on, people can be heartless jerks. I don't know how the bullies live with themselves. Knowing that they are the reason someone hates life, wants to die, and can't even remember what happyness is. I would ban this site because over half of bullying is cyber bullying.

Ask.fm is a breading ground 4 bullys with peados Waiting in the shadows, SHUT THE SITE DOWN, ITS EVIL...

seriously people..do not allow your kids to join the site and demand to do a computer check of all their sites. if your kid signs up for an ask.fm account and gets hate....either teach them how to deal with it or DEACTIVATE the account. no one said you had to keep using the account. kids at this age will say stuff because they do that's what kids do in teen years. my daughter had an ask.fm account and got people saying th emost grossest sexual things to her..so th choice was_ keep the account and thus be open to these kind of comments or SHUT IT DOWN .
shut it down. talk with you kid and remind them that you do not allow them to have the account and if the account is set up again, they will lose the computer or what ever you think works for you and your family.
it isn't ok for people to bully other people or send what my daughter got which was sexually explicit stuff but once it happened, you don't have to keep the account open.

SOmetimes I think kids use these sites as a thrill. it's what teenagers do but it needs to be channeled.

why would u sign up then? A site can be deactivated in 123. ??????

I have seen the things that go on, on ask.fm that website should be band! Spread the word?!

i think ask.fm should be takeing down i know a number of people going throw hate crimes on this ask.fm it needs to be baned as it is causeing to much bullying... rip erin galagher and others who have takeing there own lifes over this stuiped ask.fm

Theres this boy in my school, hes one of the few african American boys in our grade,10th, and he is not only bullied in school, but also on this website. Yet everyday e is happy. Or seems it at least. I have reported it but the school continues to do nothing.

Its soo stupid + and should be banned

Many people in my school have made acounts and been called into councelling due to trying to kill themselves... I don't get the point of it? I only have e-mail to talk to my friends andd I'm fine... It can block out all the pedos and ppl you don't know and if I have a problem with my mates or they have a problem with me then we'll sort it out face to face! I'm 13 yrs old and everyone wants me to get a facebook account but why? To be cyberbullied?? Stick to talking face to face! At least you know its the actually the person your meant to be talking to!

an other little girl here in donegal ireland, died yesterday due to bullying..........and there is mention that the bullies were writting stuff about her on ASK.FM............I dont have kids, but this is totally shocking....................

BAN ASK.FM

I hate when I see the comment over and over again"my daughter/son is being bullied" so what are you doing about it? First of all stop treating her/him like a victim and help her/him find the strength within to be brave enough to stand up to them or at least build her/his self esteem that she/he doesn't have to tolerate all that BS on a daily basis. My daughter was bullied and she kept it to herself. She is one of sweetest little girl you can ever meet and very pretty, she was bullied simply because of jealousy. Apparently she was the new girl who stole the so called popular girls spotlight. Wtf??? When i was picking up laundry in her room i came across a note and i swear i got literally knocked off my feet, I don't think i've ever cried so hard like i did that day. When i found out i was furious. So i i went to the school reported it and they did absolutely nothing about it. Unfortunately In my neighborhood they like to cater to certain people and those kids fell into that category. I had no idea my baby cried herself to sleep every night and she felt like she had no escape. What hurt the most is we talk about everything and i had no clue because supposedly in her words she wanted to spare ME the pain! I swear i can honestly say i wanted to hurt someone but i knew nothing would be accomplished by that. She begged me not to go to the school or make a scene because supposedly it would get worst. I grabbed her little face and told her, don't you know when you hurt i hurt and i'll be damned if anyone is gonna make you think of wanting to kill yourself and for what?? It's sickening that so many kids end up in the same situation and the schools do nothing to help them. So i said okay so the school won't do anything, i give you permission to fight back. Honestly i always teach my kids just walk away and be the bigger person but i was MAD. I won't say it changed over night but she became stronger and more confident i told her walk with your head up and don't put your head down for no one. If they approach you, don't walk away. Listen to what they have to say and if they touch you fight back. I knew she would get in trouble if she was caught fighting but i was so ready for that. It's funny how the bullied one gets in trouble nowadays and the bully not so much. Sure enough she didn't even have to physically get to that point but the moment they saw she wasn't afraid they backed off and then they called her a little tough ass and said they had a lot of respect for her. I admire her strength and she's such a good kid, she always stands up for anyone who is mistreated in any shape or form. That was when she was in fifth grade and now she's in 9th, the same girls who bullied her then now kiss her butt and ask for her to please have their back....Go figure!

my daughter is being bullied and has been told go die several times.she has attemted to end her life once.this should be band what can we do.?

Spread the word and get this site banned

I think that this web site is an arena for bullying and it should be stopped children are taking their lives because of the profanity and sexual comments that are made. I think that you should take the anonymous button and stick it. Parents should come together and close you down.

Concerned parent

Not happy at all my daughter has joined this site and all I am thinking is bullies,peodos and murderers anyone can lure you to a place and do anything,this site ahould be shut asap the people who opened it should be done in some way.....how do we get it closed down????

Some of the questions asked are pornographic and sexually explicit I think it could be and is a vehicle for paedophiles and should be banned

So many people at my school have set up accounts on this terrible site and have been called names, been accused of various things, and in some cases even received anonymous death threats! I don't understand why you would ever want to set yourself up for that kind of harassment!

How can I find out who is sending these anonymous comments to my daughters ask.fm account

There used to be a time when you could get away from bullying. But it's not that way anymore. For kids that are being bullied, it now follows them home and everywhere because so much of the bullying happens online. Lots of kids turn to drastic measures to either protect themselves or hurt themselves. It is so tragic. I talk about online bullying and suicide here:

http://www.themommypsychologist.com/2012/05/02/online-bullying-and-teenage-suicide/