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I think it was very respectful to remove the man's name from the article "due to the sensitive nature of the incident". I must ask though doesn't the families of the other 2 people mentioned in the article deserve that same respect. Shouldn't the familes of those who have suffered the tragic loss of their loved ones also be given that same courtesy "due to the sensitive nature of the incident"? The people mentioned have no direct link to the person who attempted to take his life nor do they have any real relevance to the story. Are those familes not allowed the same respect and space to grief? So I must ask why not let all of the familes grief and deal with the tragedies and remove all the names?

I am so very sorry for the family of this person, what a terrible tragedy to go through. Please accept my sincere condolonces for the loss of your husband, father, brother. I participated in an Out of The Darkness walk on the Sunday following this tragic event, never knowing that when I came to work the following week I would learn that it had struck in the very building I work in. Out of the Darkness is a community fundraising event to bring awareness, education and prevention to the issue of suicide. It affects so many more people than we realize - there is help and there is hope for healing. As survivors you may want to look to the American Foundation for Suicide Prevention. The only shame in suicide is that it continues to claim so many lives. My heart is with you.

I wonder why there were so many suicides lately- not too long ago, the SHS football team went into a frenzy...whats going on in our community? hopefully the work con ed is doing, with the natural gas pipelines going through our neighborhoods isnt the cause of people going off the deep end. This is tragic!

I am not sure why if you believe in what you have to say why everyone chooses to be anon. Your thoughts are more powerful when people know from whom they come. FIrst I want to say I know the author of the article for 15 years and can assure anyone who has doubts that she was not making light or being cavalier when listing possible causes. The point she was making was that nobody can be sure what will trigger someone to feel it is no longer worth living. Suicide is at epidemic levels among both teenagers, young adults and adults. Therefore we all should be alert and aware of changes in the behaviors of both friends and loved ones. We are not mind readers but do not be afraid to question a loved one if you are concerned, or to seek out professional guidance. We cannot save everyone but if we can save one life we have been successful. Our author was just reporting a tragic incident. Reporting the name and store may have seemed insensitive but there are many who were not aware of the incident and were able to reach out to the family in support because they were told who they were, prior to it coming out in the Scarsdale Inquirer over the weekend. Thank you Joanne for working so hard to keep this website going and thereby keeping us informed about both the news and the issues pertaining to our town. Yours is a thankless job but very much appreciated by those who are regular readers of your website.

This is a topic that needs to be talked about so that it does not happen to others. I am sure the author's intentions were not to be "insensitive" to the family. Additionally, by not displaying the name of the person, the author was actually trying to be sensitive to the family. Again, these stories must be told in order for them not to happen to others and to alert the public that it can happen to anyone at anytime.

The author seemed to be speculating about triggers, and the "cavalier reference" to "change of seasons" that a reader so strongly objected to could be seasonal affective disorder a condition where people become clinically depressed with the shortening days and coming of winter. With a suicide attempt, it is natural to wonder "why". Thankfully, this man survived his attempt. My thoughts go out to him and his family and I hope that he is able to get relief from his suffering.

I think that the author meant no harm. As a mental health professional I can say the possibilities of what brings a person to decide to harm or kill themselves are many. The author just lists some common ones, and I didn't really hear anything implying judgment. It's so sensitive and if you are close to it perhaps hard to read anything without feeling it as hurtful. But suicide is a taboo in our society, as in many, and it is better for us as a community to talk about it so that it isn't a taboo. There should be no shame in asking for help. If we say, you can't write about this, we make it more shameful, pushing people further away when they need help.

I want to thank the people for the kind words and We appreciate that my brothers name and business was removed from this blog. My family has been in business in Scarsdale since 1973. We truly appreciated all the kindness. There are no words to explain what happened,,,, Just keep a closer eye on your loved ones,,,this can happen to anyone.

This is a true testament to the fact that when someone closes their door behind them you never ever know what their life truly is. This is a sad way to remind everyone not to judge other people. You never really know the full story.
I know these people very well and you would never ever have expected this from this man. Always a smile on his face, kind and generous. We are a community in shock.

We are thinking of you during this difficult time. My thoughts and condolences to the family

I have no comment on the author.
However I did just get the news through the grapevine.
After shaking and sobbing for a while I googled to find out more information.
Suicide is a mental illness and I feel like this could have easily been me.
May our prayers, thoughts and good deeds go out to both the family and person.

How dare the author of this speculate so freely about the causes of this man's act. He has a loving, wonderful support system that carried him through his life with joy. Please respect their privacy and dignity- you would ask the same.

How sad this is, yes. How insensitive you are to write an article like this. Please allow these families their privacy. These are tragic events. There should NEVER be any judgement. You have not walked in their shoes and don't know the pain and anguish of others. Shame on you is right.

What a horrible tragedy. I can't even imagine what his family is going through. All my love and prayers go out to him and his family.

How sad to reach out for help... and then take your own life anyway.

Terrible tragedy compounded by the author's insensitive and cavalier reference to the "change of seasons" as a possible cause. Shame on you.